Arranged Marriages in India

            There are different views on marriage along with different methods. There are arranged marriages and love matches, as they are called in India. Arranged marriages include the intelligence and safety features needed to help ensure happiness after the marriage, and this is sometimes lacking from the process of American weddings. Yet, unlike the American way, this Indian tradition focuses way too much on petty faults and the unwanted physical features of the person and his/her background being examined, and too little on the person’s mental features and the love, which is the stronghold of a good marriage. The ideal way to marry is to combine the best features of both the Indian way of arranged marriages and the American fast paced, "fall in love" way of marriages.
 
            A lot of Americans marry a little bit too fast. They would date for a few months then marry, which may lead to a divorce. They marry because they fell in love and believed they were perfect for each other. But the couple doesn’t plan ahead thus risking damaging their relationship. Love is important, because it is what holds together a family and ensures the highest level of happiness for the couple, but unfortunately many people have forgotten what love truly is. Just because a person has dated someone for four years doesn’t mean they are the perfect match.
 
It must be remembered that this is the real world not a fairy-tale, so a little crush leading to a kiss won’t mean living happily ever after. There are bills to pay, jobs to keep, food to find and kids to take care of, protect, and teach how to survive in the world. Sadly, marriages can't survive on just love. A plan is needed ahead of time or else the couple won’t be able to take the problems any more and would want out by divorce.
 
When it comes to arranged marriages, the dating is done by the parents. In fact, the time it may take for parents to find a suitable match is just as long as an American would take to date. The difference is that the person who is getting married, is marrying a total stranger and is not being treated as an adult by being let to make his/her own decision. The person getting the arranged marriage is becoming too dependent on his/her parents, who won’t be around forever. Sure they can choose whether or not they marry their parents’ choice, but they can’t get to know the person until after they marry.
 
It is the person getting married, taking the next big step in his/her life, not that one person's parents, thus it should be his/her decision. These people who are getting married are becoming adults. They should be able to find their own spouse instead of being babied until after they are married. If the marriage fails, what are they suppose to do? Divorces happen to arranged marriages but not as much because it is greatly frowned upon by the family and friends of the divorced person even thou it was his/her parents who made the choice. If someone gets a bad match, let it be his/her own fault. The parents who worked hard enough to raise the person in the first place shouldn't get the chance to mess it up at the end. If the parents truly believe that they did a fine job raising their kids then they should trust them to pick for themselves.
 
Arranging one’s marriage includes a lot of criticism like the kind the arthur of Marriage in India found when she was trying to help a friend find a suitable wife for her brother: "she's too fat... wears glasses... is too short... is of poor status... is too independent for a woman... is too educated." (Marriage in India, paragraph 31-33)

“If I lived in India, I would never get married,” says the non-skinny writer of this essay as she pushes up her glasses while sitting by an advanced Math text book.
 
One’s marriage shouldn’t be based on physical features so deeply. How do the parents know if someone is not good enough for their kid? Just because he/she isn’t good enough for them doesn't mean he/she is bad for their son/daughter. Parents shouldn't care if someone is too good for their child. Normally, at least in America, that's considered to be a good thing, to have someone super to marry one's kid. It helps to know the family of the possible spouse because it can give you an idea on what the bachelor is like. But one must take into consideration that sometimes the apple does fall far from the tree. That’s where the American dating can help.
 
When people date they get to know the mental features of the person. Are they nice? Are they witty or just plain corny? Are they good with kids? Do they want kids? Do they have a temper? Do they actually care for me? If I was attacked would he/she run away or save me? Dating allows one to see if the person he/she found is to his/her liking. Parents don’t always know what their kids like. They would choose someone who can provide and take care of their kid, which is great but for many, that’s not enough. Who’s to say the kid doesn’t want adventure, or drama? Everyone is different. Everyone has their own taste.
 
The girl has it bad in India. In order to get married she must be pretty, smart, but not independent, like walking around town by herself. She must have fine features and come from a great background. Is someone trying to get married or are they looking for a pedigree dog? If something bad happened and these girls had to make it on their own, they’d be goners. They would either move back with their over protected parents or remarry. American girls can take care of themselves. If they ever lose their husbands, it won’t be the end of the world.
 
One should marry for love, not just nice physical features, good backgrounds or because his/her parents like the choice they found. They’re not the ones getting married. The one who wants to marry should grow up and make the decision his/herself, but the decision should not be based on love alone but instead on one's feelings and on how the possible choice is like. Also, a plan needs to be made ahead of time. The couple should prepare for the future, focus on the present, study the past and ensure that it’s a good choice they're making before they tie the knot. They shouldn’t rush it! That may lead to an unhappy ending. If one wants their parents help with making a choice then he/she should have them arranged a blind date. Blindness should not be part of the wedding.

Are We Doomed?

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On June 2nd, 2009 from 9 to 11 PM, (Eastern time) a special documentary called "Earth 2100" was broadcast by the American Broadcasting Company (ABC) network. This is a program everybody must see. It shows logically what could happen to us from now to the year 2100. It explores the future consequences of our stupid actions of the past years, if we humans do not solve the current or impending problems that could threaten civilization. (climate change, overpopulation, and misuse of energy resources)

It will scare the crap out of you because any idiot can see that the predictions are possible. History will repeat itself and reality will spit on us as we slowly become extinct. Click here to learn more... and no, you don't have a choice.

Here's a less serious movie that should be watched. Warning - You will laugh. :)

About the Stupidity Test

Faster is not better. We see and judge right away. We assume too much and yes I'm saying it... we're cocky. The test at top tests your oborsevation skills plus memory. Take your time, slow down, and listen to the problem. In a way, this is a lesson of life. Do not rush or you will fail. Besides it's fun to do these kinds of tests...

that is until you feel like smacking the $%^# out of whoever made it.

Drugs

Tell me if this sounds great. You're feeling down in the slumps. You had a lousy day and feel like you should go under a rock. So what do you do? Grab a huge bucket of ice cream? Listen to singers who are mad at their dads? Oh.. Oh how about Mister Happy Heroin. *takes out needle* :D

Come on! Seriously, is life so bad that you're willing to escape it by risking your safety or worse, your brain cells.
Here's my analogy for your brain on drugs.
*shows you a bagel* This is your brain.
*puts it in toaster and burns it* This is your brain on drugs.
*takes out 3 month old bagel from dark corner of the cabinet* This is your brain after lots of drugs. Green is such a lovely color.

Ways to escape troubles..
Replace drugs with...
Video Games
Anime
The Web
Chocolate



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Black Friday

For the first time in my life (2008) I actually went to a black friday sale. (5AM to get a Wii) At first I thought this wasn't too bad. A crowd outside the door waiting. It took me so long to figure out that there was a line going around a large parking lot. I go to the line and follow it to the end and find out that the end is close to where I started to look in the first place. DX My father and little sister did not want to stay. So home we went and back to bed. The worse part is that there were enough Wii systems that I could have gone at eight in the morning to get one rather than staying on a veeeeery long line in the cold. You see my sis got a call from a friend who went to the same place. I cried to her and begged her to buy me a Wii and that I'll pay her back. She couldn't do it. ): So no cheap Wii for me. But I'm glad I didn't stay because of all the crazy stories I have seen about black friday. If you think about it. Store owners are pretty stupid to allow such a thing.

Ideas to ensure a good black friday.
In other words... no one gets killed. ):
Did you hear about this one?

For the owners...

1. Have a line. Do not open doors to a crowd who is squashing the people in front of it to the glass of the doors.
2. Do not promote stupidness. No stupid contests!
3. Have a police dog to growl at people who try to cut in line.
4. Have big strong people on standby to help out anyone who fell to the ground, grab line cutters or break up a fight.
5. Let people in one at a time every 10 seconds.
6. If anyone steals, they get kicked out of the store.
7. Have police there.
8. No children allowed. Must be 16 or older.
9. Do not have an item on sale if there are only a few of them.
10. If you are going to open your doors early like 5AM then pass out special tickets to people who got on the line first. Lets say anyone who came before 4AM. These people can go home and come back later to get the items they want at the same price they were on, on black friday. Tickets expire when the day is out. If items they want are out of stock then they can buy them when they come in, at still the low black friday price as long as they come in later in the afternoon and tell the store what they wanted.

For the people...
1. Know what you want to buy.
2. Do not run if there are a lot of people.
3. If you're broke then don't bother coming.
4. Leave your kids at home. If you can't, then forget it.
5. Stay close to the sides of the crowd. DO NOT GO IN THE MIDDLE!
6. If coming early... bring hot drinks.
7. Park your car close to the line so a friend can easily go back and forth to bring you warm treats, blankets, etc.


******Black Friday Videos******
You will never want to go to a Black friday sale ever again.

Warning - JAWS... WILL... DROP... D8







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List of Truths

These are the truths of the world. You can choose to not believe them but that will not change the fact that they are true.

1. There is not a single thing that everyone in the whole world agrees on weather it be fact or opinion.

2. You cannot judge a person by the way they look.

3. Good can come from bad... and bad can come from good.

4. You cannot righteously judge till you know the reasons behind one's actions.

5. A fact is the majority truth of today. (Years ago it was a fact that the earth was flat because most people believed it was.)

6. The older are not always the wiser.

7. History repeats itself not because we didn't learn it but because we think we can do it better this time.

8. Whether you be a male or female... old or young... from a third world country or born in a mansion... A smart person can be born anywhere.

9. You cannot control the future.

10. A stitch in time saves nine. Translation -> Solve a problem now or else it'll just get bigger and bigger.

11. To solve a problem you need to think two steps ahead instead of making solutions that cause new problems. Ex Hybrids are made of new materials rather then the leftovers of scrapped non hybrids.

12. Before you determine if someone is smart or not, you must refer to a field. (Science, math, life, street, comic books, etc) Intelligence is too board to narrow down.

13. An idiot is someone who didn't know what you consider basic knowledge.

14. Most things people say are opinions.

15. More than half of the world's problems would never have happened if people have just followed these 4 commandments:

Thou shalt not kill. (Unless it's for food or defense)

You shall not commit adultery. (Don't have an affair. That's why divorces are for. :) Oh and keep it in your pants till you hear wedding bells.)


You shall not steal. (In other words, besides the obvious... do not force someone to do something because then you are stealing their free will. This covers slaves and rape. )


You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor. (No spreading rumors, good or bad. You may ruin someone's reputation at the end.)